Just a Random Thought

You ever notice that when you're around family you haven't seen in a LONG time, every other sentence begins with "Remember that time when….."   ?

I've gotten some great stories, from my uncle falling asleep under the bed with a stolen cake and turkey leg(when he was about 5), how my mom got in trouble for dancing on a crate,  and soooooooooooo much more.  Interesting childhood everyone seems to have had.


Mi Familia

This weekend I had the opportunity to spend a bit more time with my family.  I have to say I really enjoyed myself and the time that we spent. A really good friend of my cousin's threw him this huge birthday bash at her house.  It was the usual "grown folks" party for us……food, liquor, cake, card games and dominoes.   The difference is this time around there were more of us around. 

I have to say this is a bit depressing to some respect.  My family lives everywhere and we don' t get to spend much time together.  The only time we all get together is for funerals and weddings. This time around happens to be because of the situation with my grandmother(ie, possible impending funeral).  In any case, I'll try my best to enjoy them all while they're here.

Here's a clip of some fancy footwork by my aunts.  You can leave it to them to turn up the music and break out in some "slide" dance(ie, electric, cha cha, or other).

Dancing Aunties

QotD: Stress Case

People do many different things to cope with stress, loss, and "bumps in the road". How do you handle stress and hard times? 
Submitted by RedlyGal

The answer here is simple…..I smile and laugh hysterically.  It's always better for me to laugh instead of crying.  Besides when you cry your eyes get all puffy and it's just not a good look.  People laughing always look beautiful.

Serendipitous Education

coruscate: to give off or reflect bright beams or flashes of light.
serendipity: the faculty or phenomenon of making fortunate accidental discoveries.
riposte: a quick and effective reply by word or act.

I happened to log on to my "igoogle" today and these were the dictionary words of the day.  I can be honest when I say that I didn't actually know the meaning of Serendipity.  I know it as a restaurant in Manhattan and a movie that was out some time ago.  The restaurant I know…..the movie, I never had any interest(it seems like it's a "chick flick").

In any case, I think it works quite well for the restaurant as it's in a location that you don't exactly expect, so you kind of stumble upon it(assuming that the ridiculously long line outside doesn't give away the location).  When you go inside, it's very sweet and whimsical, a bit like landing in the midst of Alice in Wonderland during the tea party.  This is my "Happy Place"….it coruscates a beautiful "something"……the Frozen Hot Chocolates are a bonus*

I leave you with my riposte.

Life’s Cruelest Lesson

The cruelest lesson in life is that death has to be apart of
it. I’m sure many people are wondering why I’ve been so stressed out.  Let me begin.

My grandmother, whom I’ve mentioned before, is quite
ill.  She has at some point or other in
her life experienced just about every illness under the sun and it’s getting to
a point where her body can take no more. 
The hardest years have been the past 7 though she’s been experiencing
these things since the mid-80’s…

My grandmother has been through it all: gallbladder surgery,
high blood pressure, diabetes, heart attack(followed by bypass surgery where
they had to bypass 5 arteries/vessels), kidney failure(resulting in dialysis 3
times a week), cervical/uterine cancer(followed by radiation therapy), a heel
ulcer(followed by amputation of her left leg), a second heel ulcer(which
requires daily cleaning and redressing), now the worst of the worst and the
true reason she is in the hospital: Lung Cancer.

For everyone, this came as a true shock.  My grandmother has never smoked a day in her
life.  She was married to
smokers(twice), but her lungs have always been healthy.  Apparently this cancer in her lungs
originated as endometrial
that metastasized
to her lungs and various other organs. In other words- the cancer has spread
and is slowly taking over her body.

Considering that my grandmother has been a constant force in
my life, I find this incredibly difficult to stomach.  She is our family’s glue. 
She’s been for us all; mentor, teacher, banker, advisor, therapist,
security blanket, mother, grandmother, great grandmother, aunt, and
sister.  She is the driving force behind
our family-our Rock.  Life without her
can’t feel like living because she has always been there.

When I was in labor, she was one of my labor coaches. She
cried uncontrollably when she found out that I was pregnant, because she was so
happy.  My grandmother has been our all,
but she’s being taken away from us.

There are so many reasons that I want her to stay, but I
realize that after all she has been through, trying so hard to keep her
would be unfair.  She is a rock and an
undeniably strong person.  I know no one
that could bare all that she has and still find strength to keep going.  She is, even now, grateful for everything
that she has experienced in her life and everything that she has left. I know
that she’s in a lot of pain, but she still manages to laugh and smile with us
as if nothing is happening, though she’s fully aware of the situation.

Over the past 2 weeks everything has happened so fast yet it
seems so long at the same time.  It
brings me to mind of a quote by Andy Rooney- "I've learned…. That life
is like a roll of toilet paper. The closer it gets to the end, the faster it

I think I get my humor, and my way of laughing through
the worst from my grandmother.